December 31st

"....everybody is looking for dat smthing...one thing dat makes it all complete, some find it in de strangest places, some find it in face of their children.....some even find it in their lover's eyes...it may even b a simple line dat can make u laugh......;-)"

-Facebook

I've been soul searching for a while now, and though answers fly at me left and right, i'm too dizzy from the constant bustle around me to focus...to breathe. So how am I to achieve my ultimate goal, happiness, while simultaneously tolerating the world's BS? I am a follower of Christ, and many would say that is enough to accomplish everything I'd ever want. But I don't see Creflo Dollar abandoning all of his worldly possessions. No, I'm a realist, not a hypocrite.

What's crazy is that regardless of how hard we as human beings try to deny it, it is our nature to seek a state of comfort. It's called homeostasis, and it reigns over our minds..our bodies...our entire state of being. Even a 'Downer Dan' recieves some kind of personal relief for being grumpy, because his objective is to be grumpy, and achieving that goal=self gratification. Sounds funny, huh? I hope you're following me here. If you're not, I apologize, but this = my blog. ANYWAYS, this 'something' that we are looking for will help us retrieve temporary homeostasis. Notice how I said 'temporary'...

People, believe it or not, are scared as s*** of investment. Investing time, money, or emotions into something that isn't tangible is even harder. Maybe that's one of the main reasons for the ever-growing Atheist trend in America. I know that I have a serious issue with investing into immediate emotional substitutes, like mediocre/skin deep relationships. I used to pride myself on being a good Christian. It was something that made me stand out, and I loved God's word. But it seems like ever since I got to college, I haven't had time for the one thing that made me truly happy.

Homeostasis = survival. And my survival methods are warped

december 29th

#iloveitwhen the year is getting oveeeer! 2010 is comming, time for love, peace and unity!

-Twitter

This status really has no analytic meaning to me. I just thought it made no sense. I love sharing people's grammatical mistakes with you guys:)

December 17th

"Have a baby by me baby, be on WELFARE"

"Have a baby by my baby, be a broke chick!"

"Have a baby by me baby, watch me disappear"

-all from Facebook

9th grade was definitely a hip-hop culture shock for me. I don't remember much of that year in terms of music...except for the one song that seemed to shape the Black population at Roswell High School.... Candy Shop by 50 Cent. Homecoming was like the initiation of freak-a-leeks. I mean, as soon as the DJ started the song, seemingly naive little girls made their way to pubescent little boys, who in turn welcomed their advances. That's one big orgy of SMH's.

With that in mind, I headed to Facebook, just because. In less than 3 minutes, I saw all three of these statuses. Great. What's funny is, these are harsh realities for some women. And they've been dehumanized by Facebook users. I know I know, I probably shouldn't be so analytical. And for once, I'm going to take a bit of that advice, because honestly, this s*** was HILARIOUS.

my all-time favorite was : "Have a baby by me baby, call 1866-45-MAURY"

LOL Have a good weekend yall.

Don't read it if you haven't seen it, and want to. thanks, management

"so I'm tryin to take off these "Spelman lenses" to enjoy the princess and the frog.. smh"

-Facebook

This weekend, I was fortunate to see Disney's "The Princess and the Frog." There was so much hype at Spelman because Princess Tiana was Disney's first BLACK princess (if you don't count Nala from Lion King). I, myself was appalled and a little embarassed when my friend Whitney announced that she would not support the movie in any way, shape or form. I didn't understand at first, but now I have no doubts at all that she was right in her decision.

I'll begin with the concept of black and white, and brown for Prince Naveen's sake. In the film, blond-haired, blue-eyed, and wealthy Charlotte is in love with the Maldonian Prince Naveen. But Prince Naveen is turned into a frog, and must kiss a princess to return back to his normal state. When Charlotte becomes 'princess' of the Mardi Gras parade, she becomes Tiana and Naveen's one and only opportunity. REALLY Disney? Even though the main character, Tiana, is Black, she must STILL rely on a WHITE woman to fulfill her destiny? Subtle rasicm=not subtle enough. And what about Prince Naveen? We're ready for a Black princess, as long as she doesn't marry a Black prince. In fact, there were only 2 black men represented in the movie. One was a struggling coal miner, and the other was practically a devil worshipper. America isn't ready for an all Black cast, people. And they are especially not ready for the lead to be a successful Black man. The only Black men ever featured in Disney movies are men like Eddie Murphy, Cedric the Entertainer, and Martin Lawrence. "Look at the funny little Negroes, mommy."

The movie also centers around the concept of voodoo, a concept in which Disney Studios has YET to grasp. Louisiana voodoo evolved from the African Diasporic group who worked as slaves in the Southern French Quarter. They combined African religion with Catholic practices, such as worshiping God and Jesus Christ. They even incorporated the Lord's Prayer into their daily practices. They wore amulets to ward off harmful situations (good luck charms). And voodoo dolls? Yeah, they were traditionally used for good luck. Pins were stuck into the doll with pictures attached, so that the person could be reconnected with an ancestor, or someone still living. Disney uses voodoo dolls to represent the potential KILLING of another human being. And owing eternal debts to voodoo spirits? Way to symbolize the devil, Disney.

The movie's great, don't get me wrong, but i don't think Disney should be raised to such a high standard just yet. Before this, we only had The Lion King. Now we have a Black Princess, and her not-Black husband. Black men in the eyes of children are inferior, and voodoo is the 'Black' people religion, and therefore, we are more evil. mwahahahahaha. sigh.

Reader discretion: Do Not Read If Easily Offended. -thanks, management.

"tacky chrismas sweaters party.... hell ya!"

-Facebook

I have a confession to make. I actually know what a Tacky Christmas Sweater party is. Basically, guests wear an extremely tacky and hideous green, red, or white Christmas Sweater, and enjoy laughing at each other. As I was pondering this question, I thought to myself, 'why doesn't the AUC host events like this?' And then I had to remind myself that I no longer reside in a predominantly White area. Before coming to Spelman, I'd never had the opportunity to spend every day with over 3000 educated BLACK men and women. So I got to thinking...what would it be like if I were...not black.

Here it goes, (...)= a thought

It's 8 am, and my Kelly Pickler ringtone just went off. (Who is texting me this early, omg.) The text reads "omg, i effing love you, bitch. tomorrow we're hanging out or else, slut. loveyaaa, katie." (Awww, shes so sweet. I love herrrrrr!) I turn on Racheal Ray and straighten my hair for 45 minutes. Then, I go to the mirror and apply as much eyeliner as possible in 30 seconds. (I look ahh-dorable.)

I meet my boyfriend Kyle in the lobby (we're going to a Bama game with his parents, Sue and Larry. They're so presh!) Picture time! We take about 80 pictures of my forehead on his chest with his arms wrapped awkwardly around my back. We go out to eat at Outback, and Kyle starts talking about his black friend, Devon or Demitrious or something like that. Anyways, Demitrious is soooo cute and sooooo funny, he's the coolest guy ever. Even though we've only met once, he's like a brother for me, and if Kyle werent so amazing, I'd definitely go out with him. Especially since my parents said last week that diversity is a good thing, which is pretty much the 'OK' for me to date blacks. :)

..sigh, you get my point. gotta love melanin.

december 9th

"its about that time of the year:......where girls start to say "new year is gonna be a new and improved me"..."2010 im changing"...."its gonna be less drama in my life"......and i just wanna say bitch stop lying cuz u kno aint nothin gone change no matter how much u want it too lmao"

-Facebook

december 8th

“I was in walmart and this woman said the weather is nice..bitch its cold and raining!!“

-Facebook

Go ahead and laugh, it was my initial response as well. But after you’re little chuckle, take a deep breath and grasp the deeper meaning of this seemingly light status. Take a look outside Atl-iens. It’s freezing and the rain hasn’t stopped all morning. 1. Homegirl CLEARLY lied. 2. Or maybe she just wasn’t aware that it was raining. Yeah, there’s a 3rd possibilty, but we’ll get into that a little later.

1. I feel horrible for this…but I think I’m actually beginning to adapt to the concept of lying. I’m not blaming it completely on college, but it seems like that’s the biggest reason why. People lie about where they’re from, who they are, who they know, and what they do, just to recieve artificial acceptance from their peers. I feel like if home girl in the status was lying, she shouldn’t be condemned. That would obviously be hypocritical. And frankly, unless you’re allergic to dihygrogen oxide, there was no harm in her lie. It’s still unnecessary and unappreciated, but I feel as though we are so quick to point the finger at the obvious. The real harm lies in the hands of the deciever who can mask all of his aspersions and make them seem real. I’ve witnessed more of those situations since I arrived on August 15th. Just be rational.

2. Ignorance is bliss. Oblivion is a protector. This lady probably failed to even notice the rain or the cold outside. She didn’t seem bothered by it, because to her, it didn’t exist. Many times I’ve transformed emotionally detrimental problems into non-existent ones. I refuse to see the mess around me. I am oblivious to pain, because I’ve never allowed myself to feel it. For a while, my defense mechanism had a near 100% success rate; everything was always ‘nice weather’. But we must expose ourselves. Living in a bubble full of germ-free purified air is indeed a way of preventing swine flu. but step outside that bubble and your immune system screwed. It’s time to introduce our minds and souls to hurt and confusion. Sounds stupid, but it’s better than sounding stupid.

3. This lady knew it was raining, and she didn’t lie, either. Rain and cold were never obstacles, because the bigger picture meant warm weather and sun in May. People dwell. It’s a natural weakness for us. Relationships, bad work days, and low-self esteem are triggers for the mind blocker. But is it worth it? What does dwelling help you accomplish? Dwelling= doomed swelling. A swelling of our minds with unattractive situations and outcomes that becomes so consuming that we can no longer escape the thoughts. I know it’s a lot to take in. But a little rain and 40 degrees with wind chill only affects the entire picture if you allow it to. Don’t.